Miia Koponen

I’m a sexologist and therapeutic dating and relationship coach specialising in attraction, intimacy, sexuality and the patterns that shape our closest relationships.

Before moving deeper into therapeutic relationship work, I spent more than 15 years in London’s dating and matchmaking industry, supporting people in navigating attraction, partner choice and modern dating.

Over time, I became increasingly interested in what happens beyond finding someone: why we are drawn to particular people, why certain relationship patterns repeat, and what helps emotional and sexual connection deepen rather than disappear.

Today, my work brings together sexology, attachment-informed therapeutic coaching, mindfulness, nervous-system awareness and practical relationship experience.

I work with individuals who may understand their patterns intellectually but still find themselves repeating them — choosing emotionally unavailable partners, becoming anxious or losing themselves in relationships, struggling to trust their own needs, or feeling disconnected from desire and sexuality.

With couples, the focus may be recurring conflict, emotional distance, changing desire, communication, rebuilding intimacy or navigating different needs within the relationship.

My approach is warm, collaborative and honest. I don’t reduce people to attachment styles or assume there is one correct way to have a relationship. Instead, we explore what is actually happening beneath the pattern and create more room for conscious choice, emotional safety, desire and connection.

I work inclusively with people of different sexual orientations and relationship structures, including those exploring consensual non-monogamy.

Sessions are available online internationally in English and Finnish.